Saturday, June 1, 2013

The 'Feel Good Factor'

The best way to start a day is 'feeling good'! And its good to feel good about anything at all! Just watching my little one smiling in his sleep.. A lovely sunrise..  or waking up with a lovely bird song.. or waking up without actually snoozing the alarm! Even better.. waking up just before the alarm goes off! Ah! A perfect start is bound to make the day perfect too!.. 
I have observed, If I have a strong 'feel good' in the early hours of the day, It gives me that boost and just sets the right tempo to be good at anything and everything I do.. Yes! The house will be extra clean,laundry done and folded on time, all things will be just right.. Cooking will be pretty good and done well in time.. kids.. their activities will be happening as planned.. Those extra 'to do' things which keep on jumping from current list to next one will be covered.. And I will have spare time .. Which I utilise in a perfect way!! Wow!!

Oh! But who am I kidding! I know myself so well.. and I confess I am quite capable of carrying forward the Lazy Sunday mood right through Monday and on occasions even stretch it till Tuesday! I can go from lazy to messed up in two days! Procrastination! 

And It was this lazy me who got a kick start one morning.. And it was a perfect day! Everything running smooth.. That is when I realised, how important this feel good factor is..  Because ultimately it helps me to be efficient and organised. It also made me realize (yet again..) the importance of discipline. So, If I don't start my day the way I thought I would, I try to find or do something that gives me the tempo.. like.. an energetic cup of adrak wali chai! ..  exercise (b'coz I am regularly irregular).. RJs playing all my favourite songs.. Being able to have a leisurely lunch.. Just going through accomplished 'to lists'..  and so on..

Well, this being a recent development, I don't have much experience to back me up.. But with whatever little I do have, I can say, It worked 7/10 times.. 

But yes, sometimes things just don't work out the way we want them to.. On such a day, I tried to at least end my day on a good note.. like resolving for a fresh start.. Making a new 'To Do' list.. Just forget everything and have a nice walk to clear my head.. Read a good book before going to bed.. Listening to my favourite songs.. and yes it did make a difference..

I guess this effort to 'feel good' is the way to be positive and think positive.. And If it works for small day-to-day goals, It should for the long-term ones as well! So, I am hoping to keep going this way.. Let us see how it turns out to be.. 

I would love to know what you feel about the 'feel good factor' and what your 'feel good' things are.. 

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

What is it that really matters in the end?

                      Just a couple of days ago, one of my hard discs had a problem.. My laptop was not able to detect it. Inspite of  trying every which way possible, it flashed the same message over and over again. That was 'the disc' which literally had all the photographs, videos we had taken till date. All pictures from the when I first met Lokesh.. our engagement.. marriage.. family.. outings..our kids.. our house.. Everything.. Just the very thought of not being able to see any of that ever again made me feel sick.. I was heartbroken.. and almost lost the will to do anything else.. I shared this with Lokesh but his reaction was totally different. I almost pressed the panic button but decided to give one last try.. And yes! the disc was accessible.. It was one of my happiest moments.. It meant so much to me.. Now I could watch my kids.. their first cry, first smile, their first steps.. all the fun I had with them.. But, first things first! And that was to take a backup!!  

But, not having acces to all these precious memories.. all those major milestones in my life..  the very possibility that all would be lost ! Yet, I was telling myself, I have experienced it.. I was there.. I remember so many things vividly.. but, possibility of not being able to see it ever again.. got me thinking.. What is it that really matters in the end??

I am that one person who will hold on to soooo many things.. I mean it.. I have so many things I associate with.. and are very close to my heart.. A few things I have saved are right from my school days.. 
In my school we had a 'Prayer Book'.. thats right.. we did! It had prayers from ganesh stuti to ek onkar satnam to bismillah and zoroastrian verses.. and after every verse followed the meaning.. Just going through that book.. I am actually in my school.. in the prayer hall.. Our vice principal conducted the prayers. She had a lovely voice.. Once the prayers were over, there would be a news bulletin and speeches. We always thanked the lord before leaving for our respective classrooms..
I have an autograph book, in which all my teachers have written a small piece of advise for me. It feels so good to go through it once in a while.. I also have a scrap book in which my friends wrote about themselves and me.. I have my very first ID card from my 10th Exams.. I have so many letters from my cousins, friends.. and I feel they are a part of me.. A small but important part of my life.. and reading them always brings back fond memories. It enables me to look back at who I was.. 
I have my grandfather's watch which he wore every single day.. I have my mother's kangan and earrings which I use daily..I have my father's wallet with his initials on it which I use regularly.. I have my sister's laptop which I am sure I can never give away.. My lovely grandmother-in-law presented me her favourite sarees which I shall always treasure.. 

One might think that all these are material things which I am associating with.. And I agree! All these things are external to us.. and they do have their own shelf-life.. But inspite of that, I feel, they are invaluable.. And that is because they belonged to the person who really matters to me.. It is that bond with the person that makes it special.. And I guess it is these relationships which we have with our family, close friends.. and the way we develop them.. maintain them.. that matter.. These bonds which keep us together irrespective of distance, age, or gender that really matter.. And I feel having these things with me is my way of cherishing these fond memories associated to the people who matter the most!

Intrestingly I came across this very lovely thought just a few days ago.
In the end, what matters most is how well you lived, how well you loved, and how well you learned to let go.

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Something about Anything and Everything

This is my space where I want to share daily happenings, ups and downs, random thoughts, just anything from bags to blogs, books to cook nooks, first impressions, likes, dislikes, achievements, wishlists and so on..

I would like to start my first post with two lovely thoughts..

  • Happiness is a choice. Choose to be happy
  • Life is not about finding yourself.. It is about creating yourself..

Hope all you bloggers out there like my posts..